Love - Balance Emotions And Intelligence
Love is euphoric. Love is enchanting. Love is heavenly. Love is captivating. And Love is something no one can describe. Love has to be felt, it cannot be explained. One cannot fall in love by planning; one just falls in love without realizing. That is love. And love also takes intelligence away like nothing can. In love the most intelligent person may act foolishly, because love overwhelms.
What if you fall in romantic love? It is the beginning of your love and you have no thoughts in your mind except those of your darling. You are dreaming of making a home with her/him and living happily ever after. You are planning, discussing and dreaming. You are as much away from the reality of life as much as day is away from night. You get married. Your friends gather. Your family gathers. There is celebration. The couple looks great. They look to be in so much love with each other. You feel like the luckiest person on the earth. And then you announce divorce after a year. Why?
You never allowed your intelligence any role in your decision to marry. You never thought of what marriage means. You never faced the reality of staying together. If she is north, you are south, and if he loves literature, you love outdoors. Both of you knew about the differences, but both of you ignored them. You never gave attention to them. And some one pointed out the differences and asks you to rethink; he/she was out of your list of friends. But the final outcome was shattering. No divorce ever gives peace and fulfillment.
Please fall in love. Please experience the high of love, real passionate love. And please ask your intelligence few questions before deciding to spend life together. Are we suitable for each other? Are our habits similar? Will we give comfort to each other? Are our expectations real and will they get fulfilled? Are we fit to marry each other? Will our love last? Let intelligence play a role along with your love and then decide. You will never have to announce divorce. You will live happily together forever, because you have made a conscious decision after finding out everything. Are you made for each other? Get some fun with these quizzes from www.funquizcards.com - What kind of guy are you looking for?, How similar are you and your partner?, and Do you have a future together?
CD Mohatta writes for ecards and online greetings, screensavers and desktop wallpapers. He also writes his blog on love - http://www.articlesonlove.blogspot.com/ The topics of his writings include love, inspiration, holidays, birthdays, nature, religion and spirituality, success etc. You can have his writings on your desktop with free desktop wallpapers. These are static wallpapers which can be your computer desktop background all the time. Read the messages and get inspired all day. He also writes for http://www.funquizcards.com/. Here, you can take quizzes to find out about yourself and your relationships.
Strengthen Friendships With Ecards
Friendship is the biggest asset for us. How can we strengthen such friendships with ecards? Let us find out. A true friend is at times more valuable than anybody else. Because he/she truly cares for us. We in turn care for such a friend and both sides are always sure that they will never be left alone in a crisis or at the time of need.
How to strengthen such a friendship? Remember friendship is like a river. If water does not flow in constantly from the source the river will dry. In the same way friendship has to be fed with water of love and affection. In the modern days, it is difficult to meet a friend regularly. The work and home takes more time and little time is left for friends. Today the world demands speed and that keeps all of us busy. Ecards are a good way to keep in touch with a true friend everyday and nurture the friendship continuously. Let us see how.
Visit any ecard website. You will get ecards in such sections such as - Good Morning, Good Day, Hello, Thinking of You, Thank You, Good Luck, Friendship, Holidays etc. If nothing, we can always say good morning with an ecard to our friend every day. Imagine the effect it will have on him/her? On certain days, send an ecard to say good day and on other days thinking of you ecard is good enough to spread cheer. After a day of meeting, an ecard saying thank you will fit the bill perfectly, and once a week, a card on friendship will do wonders.
It is very easy to send ecards. It is as simple as sending a small email. But an ecard shows that you care. The colors, designs and text of the ecard will please the recipient. Use ecards to invite friends for a celebration. Send ecards on their birthdays. Send as many ecards as is the number of years of his/her age. That will please them greatly. Using ecards judiciously will help you in keeping your friendship alive, healthy and strong at all times. Ecards are a great way to keep in touch with friends everyday, because they bring you closer. And a true friend is more precious than most of the things on the earth. Strengthen friendship with ecards.
CD Mohatta writes for ecards and online greetings, screensavers and desktop wallpapers. He also writes his blog on friendship - http://happyfriendships.blogspot.com/ The topics of his writings include love, inspiration, holidays, birthdays, nature, religion and spirituality, success etc. You can have his writings on your desktop with free desktop wallpapers. These are static wallpapers which can be your computer desktop background all the time. Read the messages and get inspired all day. He also writes for http://www.funquizcards.com/. Here, you can take quizzes to find out about yourself and your relationships.
Over-Analyzing Versus Fully Inhabiting Your Intimate Relationship
"The unexamined life is not worth living," Socrates famously said. But when it comes to your love life, there are times when even a good thing like examining and analyzing the overall health of your relationship can actually be taken to an unhealthy extreme. For a good example of relationship over-analysis, watch an old Woody Allen movie from the 1970s, such as Annie Hall. Take note of how the characters are constantly analyzing every facet of their intimate relationships, dissecting all the minutiae of their love lives until they have nearly drained all the romance, joy, spontaneity, and mystery out of their relationships. A wise person I know once said, "If two partners are spending every minute of the day discussing and analyzing the quality of their relationship, then they're probably not spending enough time actually living in their relationships and enjoying one another, and not even the best of relationships can survive such relentless scrutiny." People Don't Like To Feel Scrutinized One danger of relationship over-analysis is that if one person feels as if every move he makes is being excessively scrutinized by his partner, he may start feeling defensive, paranoid, and possibly even angry and resentful. No one wants to feel like a specimen under a microscope. It's unfair to place too much importance on a single throwaway statement or action by your partner. After all, we are all only human, which means that we sometimes say things that we later regret, so we must not judge each other -- or ourselves -- too harshly for every small infraction. In fact, a generous dose of forgiveness and understanding must be incorporated into any healthy, lasting intimate relationship. If your partner is a generally kind and caring person, who only occasionally says something thoughtless, try not to focus too much of your time and energy on these rare insensitive remarks. Are You An Analyst of-or An Active Participant in-Your Relationship? If you over-think your relationship, you run the risk of becoming more of an observer of than a participant in your own love life. And when people shift from the role of participant to observer in their own intimate relationships, what they are actually doing is putting up their guard, or falling back on a common psychological defense mechanism known as intellectualization, for the purpose of shielding themselves from feeling emotionally exposed and vulnerable in the context of their relationships. A moderate amount of relationship analysis is fine, and even healthy, but it is also important to be fully engaged in your love life, that is, to be a deeply involved, active participant, instead of a clinical observer watching from a distance. Two Major Exceptions To This Rule On the other hand, there are exceptions to every rule, and if your partner exhibits an overall pattern of negative behavior-as opposed to rare little flashes of negative behavior here and there-then you actually do need to take a closer look at the relationship. On a related note, if your relationship was once tender, affectionate, and highly communicative, but has recently become cold and distant, then this would be another case in which you would need to seriously analyze exactly what is going on. Under such circumstances, sometimes a professional therapist who specializes in couples counseling can be helpful. Take Action Now! When I suggest that you consider fully inhabiting your relationship, I'm urging you to consider a more living-in-the-moment approach to your love life. For instance, if you want to be more "in the moment" with your significant other by giving him a soothing foot rub or back massage, then allow yourself to focus exclusively on that activity, nothing more and nothing less. Shut out your worries and light some candles to set a romantic mood. Take some full, deep breaths, first inhaling through your nose for a count of eight, and then exhaling through your mouth for a count of eight. Deep breathing can relax you, enabling you to concentrate better on the task at hand. Then, focus all of your attention and energy on your partner. If you have lit candles, enjoy the sight of the small, flickering flames, and if the candles are scented, breathe in their sweet fragrance. Soak in every aspect of the romantic atmosphere you have so lovingly created, and allow all of your senses to fully absorb the entire scene: the candlelight, the fragrant scent in the air, the soft, warm feel of your partner's skin beneath your fingertips. Allow yourself to bask in the warmth and beauty of exactly what is happening in this particular moment. Say a few tender words of love and appreciation, and then listen attentively to your partner's reply. If your mind wanders, gently redirect your full attention to your senses: the feel of your partner's skin, the beauty of the candlelight, the delicate scent wafting from the candles. Staying acutely aware of your senses is a highly effective way to stay in the moment. Concentrate on exactly how good it feels to be in love with this particular person at this particular moment in time. When you celebrate your love like this, you are actively and mindfully cherishing your partner, and this is at the heart of living in the moment with the person you love. This contribution by Rachel D. Baldino reprinted with permission from New Living magazine.